Inspire love, not fear

In our task of apostolate, we should see to it that our

dealings with others should be such that we inspire love rather than

fear in them. We should avoid bullying others in whatever form it

comes—physical, verbal, emotional, psychological, etc.—so that they

may go to God.

            To be sure, God does not want that anyone goes to him more

because of fear rather than of love. In fact, even in the dealings

among ourselves, we want that we be loved rather than feared by

others. We should therefore be careful that in our effort to help

others in their relation with God, love should be the driving force,

not fear and violence.

            We have to practice extreme delicacy and tenderness in our

apostolic dealings, which does not mean that there is no forcefulness

involved either. Let’s remember that in one of the parables of Christ,

there is mention of the “compelle intrare” (compel them to come in).

(cfr Lk 14,17-24)

            This is in the parable of a master asking his servants to

call the invited guests to his feast. Since the invited guests offered

all sorts of excuses not to come, he ordered his servants to go to the

highways and hedges, and “compel people to come in, that my house may

be filled.” (Lk 14,23)

            Just the same, this forcefulness does not mean that we can

do away with delicacy, gentleness and compassion in our dealings with

others, especially those who are not quite ready yet to receive

Christ, or who may even be hostile to our apostolic action.

            This is simply because we have to respect the freedom of

everyone, even if that freedom is not exercised properly. In that

case, we have to go to the process of explaining things slowly and

delicately, preceding, during, and concluding it with prayers and

sacrifices.

            We have no right to impose ourselves on others, and to

trample on their freedom. Even if we manage to force others to comply

with our commands to be with God, if they do it not freely, nothing is

actually achieved. In fact, a worse scenario may even be created.

            We have to be wary of our tendency to control people’s

lives and freedom. That is not the way Christ dealt with everyone.

Yes, he proclaimed the truth in different ways, some in a soft way and

others in a rather strong way, but in the end he did not force anyone

to follow him.

            He practically begged to be believed and followed, and

this he did all the way to offering his very own life. As Christ put

it, “I, when I am lifted up from the earth, will draw all men to

myself.” (Jn 12,32)

            This is because we are not the owners of anyone’s

conscience. God is the only owner. We are at best stewards, tasked to

help others in the name of God. And given the complexity of this

business of apostolate which is something eminently spiritual and

supernatural, we need to practice a lot of restraint and moderation,

thoughtfulness and patience, since we will be involved in some

mysteries which we cannot fully fathom.

            Thus, we have to avoid appearing as if we know everything,

even if we are aware that we know a lot of things. We cannot be too

sure if we are hitting the mark when make our apostolic moves. The

best that we can do is to be delicate and gentle in our dealings,

never acting like a bully or being too pushy.

            More importantly, we need to pray a lot and offer a lot of

sacrifices, always appealing to God’s mercy and wisdom. God is the

only one who can make the impossible possible. We have to allow others

to grow and mature spiritually in a way that is done in freedom and

love.