IF love is
genuine, it will always express itself
strongly—with passion, with drive. It will always be hot
and it just
cannot keep to itself, passive and inactive. It has to
overflow and
touch the lives of others and the state of things. In
fact, it seeks
to transform and enrich others without counting the cost.
It is also
convinced that by giving, it is actually also receiving
and gaining
much more than what it gives away.
Yes, there is a
certain madness to it, but one that is
compatible with peace and joy. There is no bitterness
involved,
although a certain healthy tension characterizes it. It
does not leave
behind rationality, prudence and common sense. Its
excesses are those
of pure goodness. In this department, it is not sparing.
It gives
itself in abundance and without calculation, without
measure.
Authentic love
is not just a matter of feeling good. It is
very much compatible with sacrifices, self-denial and
self-giving. It
goes beyond the realm of our emotions and feelings, and
other worldly
standards. It is, first and foremost, spiritual and
supernatural.
We have to
examine ourselves to see if our love has this
kind of passion. To be sure, this is what is proper to
us. A person
who is not truly in love is actually demeaning his being
a person.
That’s because a person by definition is meant for love.
He has been
made and equipped for it.
One sure
standard we can use to see if we are truly in
love is to check out on how we are using our time. Time,
as we know,
is precisely the ‘space’ meant for probing how our love
is. If we make
good use of time, then we are in love. If we just waste
it away, it’s
a clear sign we are not in love. That simple!
And so our love
should lead us to organize our day well,
making clear our goals that are arranged in their proper
priority—God
first, then others, then us. With this order, love can
work in
consistency. Otherwise, our love would at best be just
apparent.
God has to be
first. And not only first, but also always,
that is, constantly, abidingly. And that is simply
because God himself
is love, “Deus caritas est,” and as such is the source,
pattern,
energy and end of love.
And this love
is manifested to us in Christ who shares it
with us in a vital, existential way, through his word,
the sacraments
and the countless other ways in which his presence and
continuing
action on us take place.
Christ already
set this order of love when in that episode
of him as a child who got lost and then found, he told
his worried
mother, “Did you not know that I must be about my
Father’s business?”
(Lk 2,49) And in another instance, he said, “My food is
to do the will
of Him who sent me and to finish his work.” (Jn 4,34) And
he fulfilled
this all the way to the cross.
We have to have
this kind of love daily and expressed in
the usual things of our day. So we need to make some kind
of daily
plan, schedule, strategy that would outline as clearly as
possible
that the concrete things that we need to do out of love
for God and
for everybody else.
For this, we
need to continually grow in our competence
and sense of responsibility, always studying and
reviewing whether
what we have done so far are in accord with how things
ideally should
be.
Love’s passion
never sacrifices rationality, much less,
our faith and hope.
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