Wednesday, December 31, 2014

When order becomes a disorder

ORDER, of course, is a great virtue. We have to do
everything to develop and live it well. And also to spread it as
widely as possible, making ourselves, if need be, its models and
endorsers, especially when the prevalent culture is precisely lacking
in it.

            Many of our problems are caused because we do not live
order as we should. We misplace things, so we have trouble finding
them. We fail to take note of something, so we forget them. In the
end, we waste time, effort and even money, since we may have to
replace lost or broken items.

            Things can even get worse, as when the lack of order
becomes habitual, attitudinal, systemic and cultural in our life and
society. We don’t have the habit of making plans and schedules. Our
sense of priority is a mess. We prefer to be guided by spontaneous
impulses rather than by a sober assessment of things.

            We like to delay doing things, and when we finally begin
to work, we drag our feet. Tardiness becomes a norm to us. Aggravating
things further is the advent of the multi-tasking culture that easily
adds confusion to the mess.

            To top it all, we can start to rationalize our lack of
order as being human, as if to be human is not to live order,
contradicting the abundant evidence of order in nature. We prefer
simply to be at the mercy of the situation and the circumstances,
however they may be.

            Some ideologies have, in fact, been developed based on
these notions. Relativism and situation ethics are samples and have
been duly exposed as such by the Church magisterium.

            At bottom, what they teach is an anything-goes,
free-for-all lifestyle. Nothing can be held absolute. Everything is
relative. Everything depends on us, however we take ourselves. We make
ourselves our own God.

            Obviously there’s always something good and true in them,
otherwise, these ideologies would not attract anyone. And for whatever
good and true they have, we can take advantage in some way. But let’s
always be prudent.

            That’s because if looked at closely, what’s actually
followed are mere instincts, emotions at the moment, personal
preferences and biases, fads and trends, and the mundane and
self-seeking criteria of practicality, convenience, popularity,
profitability and the like.

            But there’s a kind of ‘order’ that is actually a disorder.
It is the kind that usually afflicts those who are generally regarded
as ‘good’, ‘intelligent’ or even ‘holy’ people. It is the kind that
converts order into an obsession, that makes one rigid and inflexible
in his ways, and usually leads him to be judgmental, self-righteous,
closed-minded.

            It is an ‘order’ that is pursued with bitter zeal, and
usually leaves one with a psychological illness called
obsessive-compulsive syndrome. One becomes a controlling, calculating
and manipulative agent.

            He is often deaf and blind to the developments around,
insensitive to the feelings and conditions of others. It’s his ways,
his criteria, his opinions that must be followed. He can hardly
countenance deviations from what he expects from others.

            He finds it hard to adjust to others, and to adapt to ways
different from his. Any concession in this regard is merely token,
assumed mainly for the sake of convenience, never of broadmindedness
and charity.

            Because of this attitude, he can worry a lot, suffer a lot
of strain, much more than what can be considered normal. All this can
leave a mark on his over-all appearance and behaviour. He can look
always dour and snobbish.

            His perfectionism is insensitive to the promptings of the
Holy Spirit. More than God’s will which can also be gleaned from the
developments around—the so-called signs of the times—it’s his will
that dominates.

            Sad to say, while our common understanding of disorder is
still rampant today, we can already see a growing number of those
afflicted with the disorder of the so-called ‘order’ of the
perfectionists.

            We have many very opinionated people nowadays who try to
impose a monolithic view of things when plurality and diversity of
opinions is, in fact, most welcome and very healthy.

            Even some church people exceed the limits of their
teaching power of doctrine and dogmas to areas like politics,
business, sociology, etc., where different and even conflicting
opinions are not only allowable, but also are necessary.

            We definitely have to do something about this, trying to
nip it in the bud as soon as we notice its symptoms, especially among
the young ones. Families and schools are the best venues to correct
this disorder early enough.

Tuesday, December 30, 2014

We need patience

THIS is a most indispensable virtue to have. If only to
maintain our sanity, if not to survive in a world that’s full of
surprises, challenges, trials, setbacks, problems, difficulties,
disappointments, and an endless etcetera, patience is what we should
have.

            Besides, patience allows us to see things more objectively
and calmly, disposing us to react and behave in a more appropriate way
whatever the situation may be. Our judgments would be better arrived
at.

            With it, we become more able to handle all kinds of
predicament, whether they be hot issues, difficult persons or personal
failures. We cannot deny that situations are aplenty where we find
ourselves unable to cope with our problems, where we can only see face
to face the naked reality of our limitations.

            With it too, we would know how to move on in spite of
impediments and hindrances. We would not get stuck at a certain point,
and would just allow the workings of providence to take effect. Along
the way, we get to know more and new things, expanding our knowledge
and savouring the finer points of things we already know.

            Our mind would be broadened, our heart made more
universal. We would be released from the confines of our temperament
and character, and put ourselves on track toward a fuller
actualization of our potentials. Yes, it facilitates our blossoming to
maturity.

            There are many other practical advantages of patience. But
what is of utmost importance is that it is what would also resemble us
with Christ who is patience personified.

            We have to be clear about this. If we want to have
patience, it is to Christ whom we should approach and learn from. It’s
he who will make us understand the reason and meaning of it, he who
will give us the very strengthen for it, which otherwise would be
impossible for us.

            With Christ, all our efforts to be patient can have not
only temporal, human effects, but also eternal and supernatural ones.

            We should not just be relying on our own powers and
resources, no matter how vast and deep they may be. We should not just
be relying on our knowledge of the doctrine of our faith, which if not
infused with charity, mercy and compassion, can lead us to be
judgmental and self-righteous, raising invisible walls and barriers
among us.

            So, as early as possible, while it’s true that we have to
do whatever we can to handle our concerns, we should never forget that
it is to Christ that we have to go and depend on. Only with him can we
hope to live patience that is a function all at once of truth and
charity, justice and mercy.

            Thus, we have to beg for it in our prayers constantly. We
cannot take this intention for granted. Ignoring it can only mean that
we are depending merely on our own human strength to be patient, and
that is an immense anomaly. We have to beg for patience, because it is
first of all a grace from God. It’s not something we ourselves make.

            And so, a big dose of humility is also needed here, for us
to feel this objective need. Let’s remember that pride can enter us in
a most subtle way, and can even disguise itself as humility. And
that’s when we can be almost incurably blind and insensitive to this
need for humility.

            But since grace does not do away with our human nature,
but rather works on it, enriching, purifying and elevating it to the
supernatural order, we have to understand that to develop patience, we
also have to do our part.

            In this regard, we can always take advantage of our daily
events, already full of contradictions, to broaden and deepen our
capacity to suffer out of love, which is what patience is all about.

            We should practice restraint and moderation in our
thoughts and reactions. Since our spontaneous reactions cannot be
controlled, let’s see to it that we can manage to correct ourselves or
at least put ourselves in some cautious mode as soon as we can.

            We should always be careful with our emotions, moods and
passions. The same with the social trends and fashions that can
trigger a mob response to situations, instead of a more human and
charitable one.

            Our words should be well thought out before they are
uttered. More importantly, we should always arm ourselves with good
intentions, the skill to discern whatever good there may be in any
situation even it is dominated by so much evil. This will make
patience easy and even enjoyable.

Sunday, December 28, 2014

Dispensing divine mercy

THIS is, of course, a tall order, especially to confessors
administering the sacrament of penance, and to practically everyone of
us, since we all need to forgive one another. But neither is this an
impossible task.

            We all know that God’s mercy is abiding and is forever.
There is nothing that can’t be tackled by it. God is not scandalized
by anything. His mercy can take on anything. Not even our most
grievous mistakes and most stupid blunders can frustrate it.

            St. John Paul II once said while our capacity to do evil
can be infinite because of our spiritual nature, God’s mercy can
always limit it. So we should not be too alarmed by any evil, no
matter how ugly and persistent, because God’s mercy can handle that.

            Always given readily and in abundance, this divine mercy
has to be dispensed always in the context of truth, justice and a
charity, a combination that is always tricky to the human instruments
through whom it is dispensed. The possibility of mishandling it is
always there.

            Dispensing divine mercy, which is the only kind of mercy
proper to us due to our dignity as children of God, requires nothing
less than for the human instruments to be vitally united and
identified with Christ who is the very personification of divine
mercy.

            Let’s remember that Christ not only preached what is right
and wrong, what is good and evil, but also assumed all the sinfulness
of man by offering his life on the cross. He came to save, not to
condemn. He was slow to anger, quick to forgive.

            He would make use of any sign or trace of goodness, no
matter how slight and mixed up with many other bad elements, to elicit
a conversion. His mercy is the overflow of love that in the words of
St. Paul “is patient and kind...does no insist on its own way...does
not rejoice at wrong, but rejoices in the right...bears all things,
believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.” (1 Cor 13
4-7)

            This is the standard that any human instrument charged
with dispensing divine mercy should follow. But this standard, let’s
be clear about this, is not just abstract idea, a frozen theory and
principle, a historical character buried in the past. This standard is
a living person, always present in our lives, actively intervening and
loving, and easily accessible.

            The challenge is precisely in identifying ourselves with
Christ. It’s in adopting his mind and attitudes, his skills and
willingness to suffer for the sins of man. We just can’t rely on our
own theories and human systems of dispensing mercy, nor on our own
estimation of what is fair and just.

            We need to enter the very mind and heart of Christ. We
need to reproduce “in vivo” the very sentiments, desires and concerns
of Christ in us. This is something not only possible, but is also very
practicable, because the grace of God is given to us abundantly. What
is simply needed is our generous and even heroic correspondence driven
by faith and charity.

            To enter into his mind and heart, we have to be willing to
deny ourselves and to carry the cross, as Christ himself clearly
indicated to us. A lifestyle that is alien to self-denial and
sacrifice can never be welcoming to Christ and to his mercy. We would
miss the true essence of divine mercy even if we can appear, by human
standards, to be kind and merciful.

            Let’s remember that it is through the cross that we can
savor God’s wisdom about his infinite mercy. This is the only way we
as dispensers of divine mercy can carry out that duty effectively.
That is when we, like Christ, would be a loving father, an intimate
friend, a competent spiritual doctor and a merciful judge to the
penitents and to our offenders.

            We would know how to weigh and assess things, make
judgments, give timely counsel and effective advice to the penitents.
In short, we would know how to deliver the whole mercy of Christ that
culminated with his passion, death and resurrection. Mere study or
reliance on experience, no matter how vast, while helpful, can only go
so far.

            Dispensing divine mercy should not just be some
ritualistic, much less, bureaucratic and officious exercise. It has to
flow organically from a vibrant and persistent effort of one’s
sanctification. This is the only way we can capture God’s infinite
mercy and feel the great need of men’s forgiveness from God!