Thursday, July 9, 2015

Nature and nurture

IT should be nature and nurture together and in conformity
with each other, not nature vs. nurture, as those of the gender
ideology would often invoke. What is obvious is that we are not our
own creator, and our nature is not self-generated. It has its own law,
independent of how we understand it, and we should just try our best
to respect and follow it.

            I remember Pope Benedict in his encyclical, Deus caritas
est, saying that nature is one and indivisible which includes not only
our physical environment, or our biological make-up, etc., but also
the spiritual and moral dimensions of our life.

            It’s good that we are witnessing a growing sense of
ecology, or care of the environment, but we should realize that that
ecological sense should extend all the way to include our spiritual
and moral life and environment, which actually is its most crucial
aspect.

            And just as what happens in our physical environment, we
too have the choice either to respect, enhance and develop this
spiritual and moral ecology, or distort or even destroy it. Sad to
say, it seems that many of us are concerned more with the physical
ecology than with our spiritual and moral ecology.

            Nature is what is given to us by God, our Creator and
Father, through our biological and genetic make-up, courtesy of our
parents, the procreators. And nurture should build on it, not go
against it.

            We all know that one is conceived and born either as male
or female. This is basic biology, not bigotry. That there sometimes
are hermaphrodites is the exception, a rare phenomenon, which proves
the rule.

            It’s an anomaly that simply shows that nature too has its
limitations, which often is also caused by us, much like why we have
typhoons. Still, such anomaly is not the end of the world for the
person concerned. Something can always be done to address that
predicament.

            And so when one is born as a boy, he should try his best,
with the help of everyone, to develop and nurture his manhood as fully
as possible, actualizing his manly qualities and properties as shown
by Christ himself and reflected and mediated in a homogeneously
evolving way by our cultures and civilizations through the millennia.
The same when one is born as a girl. She should cultivate her
femininity as fully as possible. There is supposed to be
complementarity between the two sexes.

            This is, of course, easier said than done. We know that
for one reason or another—physical, hormonal, emotional,
psychological, environmental, etc.—there can be confusion between the
two genders. This should be acknowledged humbly as an anomaly for
which some solution has to be sought. It should not be considered as
normal, much less, natural.

            Clarifying and resolving issues as to what is to be
masculine and what is to be feminine, I suppose, would be a dynamic
affair up to the end of the world. But this concern should have some
consistency and homogeneity.

            What is clear is that while some commonality can be
observed and is ok in many aspects of our human sexuality, i.e., in
the relation and distinction between male and female, the sharpest
distinction between the two can be observed in the venereal level,
when the direct use of our sexuality as in the conjugal act or sexual
intercourse is involved.

            In this aspect, the male has to be male and the female has
to be female, since the act, to be wholly human, has to be an act of
love, of total self-giving that is open to life.

            In that act, the whole person is involved, in the totality
of one’s spiritual and bodily dimensions. That is the very nature of
the act, the moral object of the act. We should not pervert it by not
respecting the very nature and purpose of that act.

            If animals that are driven simply by instincts would know
in general how to do the act and with what partner—we call it
mating—we human beings, who are persons with intelligence and will,
should know better.

            But then again, since we have a wounded nature, there’s
always a possibility that instead of doing things according to our
nature, we can choose to do things against our nature.

            In fact, of all the creatures, we are the only ones,
together with the purely spiritual angelic creatures, that can
contradict our nature, and thus become inhuman or subhuman.

            We have to be more aware of our grave responsibility to
put nature and nurture together, not nature vs. nurture.

Tuesday, July 7, 2015

New technologies can lead to self-inflicted bondage

WE have to be masters, not slaves, of the new
technologies. But to attain that goal, we have to realize that we are
getting into a new ball game, with different set of rules, and with
very subtle implications and consequences that we still have to
explore and weigh, and their ranking in our proper hierarchy of
priorities established.

            In short, we have to go through the learning process which
usually involves a teacher or tutor to guide us, especially at the
beginning stage. And I don’t mean simply the technical aspect of the
matter. Much more important is the moral and spiritual dimension of
this new development where we are often at sea, confused and lost.

            There is no doubt that the easy access today to
smartphones, tablets, mobile devices, computers, the Internet, social
media, etc., has given us tremendous facilities and advantages. But
just as they give us a lot of good, a lot of evil has been generated
as well.

            It cannot be denied that very often these new technologies
so grab, hijack and almost completely absorb our attention that we
would forget or neglect our other, even more important duties. We get
hooked to them, like drugs.

            They have such alluring and seductive power that we can
think we are doing well with them, when in fact we are being degraded,
since we tend to waste time and to get entangled with many unnecessary
but fascinating little distractions, trivialities, gossips, etc.

            We can get the sensation that with them we are expanding
our world, increasing our knowledge, extending our reach, not
realizing that in the end we would just be feeding our
self-centeredness and vanity.

            This is not to mention that these new technologies can be
an irresistible occasion and temptation to sin. A casual stumbling
into a pornographic and other questionable site can easily open the
slippery slide to vices and all kinds of addiction. Indeed, they can
complicate rather than simplify our life.

            To the strong and mature people, these new technologies
can make them better. But to the weak and immature, they most likely
can lead to a mess. But since in real life, we can be strong one time
and weak the next, we really would need to be most discerning and
disciplined to tackle the challenge of using these technologies
properly.

            Some criteria and norms have to be established and
followed. We just cannot plunge into these technologies driven and
guided only by our common sense. That would not be enough. I would say
that with the more complicated things are with emergence of these new
technologies, we need to be more strict with ourselves, a little bit
distrustful of our capabilities, and more urged to seek help from
others.

            And I would say that the first among these criteria and
norms should be the need to rectify our intentions. Our motive of
using them should first of all and always be to give glory to God.

            It should not just be for practical purposes. That’s
because to be so intentioned, without referring it to God, would
simply expose us to the dangers of self-indulgence, vague ulterior
motives, and other impulses deriving from mere and spontaneous
curiosities, and other passing and unclear conditionings that we are
all subject to.

            Thus, there’s always need to practice temperance,
restraint and moderation of these new technologies so that the proper
motive of giving glory to God and serving others would not be
undermined, but rather would be enhanced.

            Let’s always remember what Christ so clearly told us: “If
any man will come after me, let him deny himself, and take up his
cross, and follow me.” (Mt 16,24) Let’s concretize this indication of
self-denial in the spirit that animates these words of Christ. Let’s
translate it into some specific actions.

            Among them perhaps could be that we don’t have to avail of
all these new technologies, or of their latest models. We have to
limit our use of them to a certain time of the day. We have to
restrain our spontaneous impulse to use them.

            We have to make sure that we have a very clear purpose in
using them, avoiding simply driven by passing curiosities, if not by
passing whims and caprices. It may be a good idea to deliberately pray
before using them and even while using them so our attitude toward
them is kept spiritual, moral and supernatural.

            We should never forget that these new technologies can be
a strong temptation for us to be drunk with our own powers, forgetting
God. That would lead us to a self-inflicted slavery.

Sunday, July 5, 2015

Forming convictions

WE need to see to it that we are forming convictions,
those strong, deep core beliefs that would serve as a clear and sure
guide in our lives. We have to be wary of a certain culture, quite
rampant these days, which simply fosters shallow thinking, knee-jerk
reactions, and shifty views, and in the end produces men with no
principles.

            Convictions are like anchors and foundations that give
stability and consistency as we go through the flux of life. They are
like rudders that give direction to the ship of our life as we cruise
through the varying conditions of the ocean of time. We should not be
casual, much less, indifferent to them. We have to cultivate them with
determination.

            And where should our convictions be based on? Obviously
upon our nature, and the nature of things in general, which in turn
are given to us by its Creator, God, who has revealed not only himself
to us through Christ in the Holy Spirit, but also the nature of world,
including that of ourselves.

            We should try to avoid simply grounding our convictions on
some ideologies, and much less on some momentary fads and fashions.
They at best can only give so much. And quite often, their
deficiencies occasion dangers, since they may be due to some errors or
confused understanding of certain things.

            Christ is the sure way. He himself said so. “I am the way,
the truth and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me.”
(Jn 14,6) Not only is he, as Son of the God the Father, the very
pattern of our creation but also, by becoming man, our Redeemer.

            That is why Christ once said: “Everyone therefore who
hears these my words, and does them, shall be likened to a wise man
that built his house upon a rock, and the rain fell, and the floods
came, and the winds blew, and they beat upon that house, and it fell
not, for it was founded on a rock.” (Mt 7,24-25)

            And so we need to pray and meditate on the word of God,
study its implications and consequences, cultivate the appropriate
attitudes, practices and virtues, and develop a basic plan of life
which, while always renewing, adapting and modifying itself according
to changing circumstances, would put us on track to our definitive,
ultimate goal.

            We need to see to it that there is growth and progress in
this duty of forming convictions. We cannot remain in the infantile
stage, nor in the toddler, child and adolescent phases. We have to aim
at adulthood and maturity. In fact, we have to aim at the fullness of
God, fullness of truth and charity, with Christ as the model, since
that is what is proper to us.

            We have to help one another in this grave concern. The
family is the basic and indispensable venue for this purpose. Thus,
everything has to be done to make the family strong, vibrant and in
the best condition to carry out this duty. We should avoid anything
that would undermine the vitality of the family, like when marriage is
redefined, one or both parents are absentees, family life is
neglected, etc.

            If for one reason or another, the family is found
deficient, if not dysfunctional, then through the principle of
subsidiarity, higher entities may step in, like the other relatives
may have to intervene,  or the school, the community, the parish, the
government, etc.

            To be sure, forming convictions would not make us rigid
and narrow-minded, tied up with some unforgiving principles. If our
convictions are truly based on Christ, they would always be marked by
charity, broadmindedness, prudence, patience, mercy, compassion, as
well as justice, fortitude and strict adherence to the truth.

            These convictions, while having an absolute, permanent
core, would always be dynamic, and would know how to flow with the
times, and how to renew and adjust to varying situations and
circumstances.

            These convictions would allow us to have a global picture
of things, to give due considerations to the big and the small things
in life, the spiritual and material dimensions of life, as well as the
temporal and eternal.

            And far from making us cold and always serious, they would
help us to be very warm and affectionate with others, calm and
cheerful. They banish insecurities. They enable us to remain confident
whatever the situation is.

            We have to do everything to cultivate these convictions
that are necessary in our life. Let’s go beyond the culture of easy
living and shallow thinking. Let’s find our true foundation and orient
ourselves to our ultimate goal.